Aug 13, 2019
Brian Mayer takes a look back the best episodes on The Remarried
Life podcast that will help you to stay mentally strong in the face
of the difficult and complex new life in your remarriage and
blended family. We hope you enjoy today’s message. For
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- Let’s face it, staying mentally strong in today’s world
with everything that comes at us can be difficult.
Unfortunately gun violence feels like it is on the rise and that we
now wonder is any public place safe. It is things like this
that when we add to the grief and loss of divorce and the
anxiety over stepparenting and blended families that it makes
perfect sense that we can gravitate toward things like depression
- While there are certain actions and behaviors and strategies
that can make life in a blended family better, it really
starts with your own mental health.
- Did you know that almost 7% of adults will have a
depressive episode in any given year.
Bipolar depression which can swing from
great highs to great lows can affect almost 3% of
the U.S. population.
- Anxiety is the most common mental illness in the U.S.
affecting about 18% of the population. Now it could
be actually argued that everyone has anxiety but of course it only
rises to a problematic level in some.
- If you have listened to the podcast for any length of time, you
know that starting with ourselves is probably the most
important thing you can do, so today we are going to take
a look back at some of the episodes that can help
you to stay mentally on track as the insanity swirls around
- Session 6: The
Stigma of Divorce - Things like feelings of failure,
feeling less than you are, and feeling different are all things we
talked about in the episode. The overarching theme though is
that this is normal and everyone experiences these things
especially in the beginning.
- Session 11:
Trusting Yourself After Divorce – Really enjoyed this episode
with Carmen Roman, fellow podcaster who talked about the
experiences we gather through divorce, walking through the grief
process, working past the milestone events the next year, among
many other issues.
- Session 19: Have
You Healed From Your Previous Marriage - We take a deep
dive and look at the grieving process and the stages
involved. The stages are Denial, Anger, Bargaining,
Depression, Acceptance, and Forgiveness. The stages aren’t
linear and there is no perfect timetable. We all move at
different paces for sure.
- Session 32: Learn
How to Forgive - While forgiveness is certainly an
action, there is also a huge mental health component to it.
Forgiveness especially for the one holding the unforgiveness can
lift an emotional burden that is being carried around.
Forgiveness though is a process and it doesn’t mean you trust again
but just that you work to open back the lines of communication and
repair the disconnect.
- Session 40:
Introduction to Mindfulness
- Session 41: Individual Mindfulness Exercise
- Session 42: Couples Mindfulness Exercise –
- In these 3 episodes we take a break from the usual strategies
and tips to take a breath for us individually and as a couple.
Being mindful is the art of remaining in the present moment
non-judgmentally. It can create peace, and calm and a more
- Session 56:
Projecting Past Hurts onto Your Partner – This episode is all
about getting in touch with your mental state when it comes to the
connection between your past and your present. It is very
common to be completely unaware that something that is happening in
the present in your relationship feels worse than it really is
because it is triggering a memory, a though, or an emotion that is
connected to something that happened in your previous
- Session 93: How
to Reframe Your Mind Toward Your New Family – We talk in this
episode about how our brains are somewhat wired to what is called a
Negativity Bias. This means that we will tend to look more at
the negative in situations. This really goes back to earlier times
when are brains had to be alert for danger regarding say other
animals. We developed a rapid flight or flight
response. Unfortunately this can get activated very easily if
we are not careful in simple conversations with our spouse.
- Links to The Episodes are Above
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