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The Remarried Life

Feb 11, 2020

Brian Mayer talks about the Valentines Family tradition.  Not only should Valentines Day celebrate each other as spouses but should incorporate the kids as well.  We hope you enjoy today’s message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at

Today's Goodies

  • Valentine’s Day over the years has gotten a bad rap as has ever other holiday for being over commercialized.  And the reality is that yes there probably is some truth to that.  But nevertheless it should be viewed as an important day especially in the life of the blended family. 
  • Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love and so it could be argued that this day is needed in the life of the blended family maybe more than any other day. 
  • It is needed because love in a blended family unfortunately does not come naturally like it does in the biological family.  In the biological or first marriage, love especially from parent to child is typically built in and while it should be nurtured of course, that sometimes it can just exist without much watering of the garden. 
  • Not so in blended families.  Every chance you get you should work to encourage that love to grow, and again what better way than to take advantage of Valentine’s Day. 
  • As you probably know Valentine’s Day occurs every year in the United States and in other parts of the world on February 14.  It is a day where loved ones will give each other gifts like cards, flowers, and candy. 
  • There are some different accounts of how Valentines Day started and one of the more interesting involved poet Geoffrey Chaucer.  He was from England and lived in medieval times.  His most famous work is the Canterbury Tales. 
  • In 1735 Chaucer wrote a poem called “The Parliament of Foules” and in it he referred to February 14 as the day of the St. Valentines feast day where people come to find a mate.  So there is a thought this day grew out of a fictional day written about in a poem almost 300 years ago. 
  • Certainly my fondest memories of Valentines Day as a child were the exchanging of Valentines Day cards at school.  Of course they were store bought and varied using across various animated themes like princesses, super heroes and other cartoons.
  • Our teacher would usually ask us to bring a tissue box from home and then we would decorate it however we wanted.  The purpose of the box was to hold all of the cards we might get as we exchanged them with fellow students.
  • Brian confesses in elementary school that he could not wait for one or maybe two different girls to give him a card if he had the so called “crush” on them. 
  • Heather’s fondest memory was very similar and it was about the exchange of cards with classmates and the excitement that came along with that. 
  • What about some Valentine’s Day traditions do we celebrate now?  Something we decided a long time ago is that we would spend Valentine’s Day at home.  When our daughter was home we might all talk about what to make usually would involve a steak or other nice cut of meat and some good sides. 
  • We would set up a card table in the living room with a nice table cloth and maybe a candle or something in the middle.  So it really did feel like we eating out but were not fighting the crowds.  It was a nice simple intimate dinner with all of us as a family just sharing our love for one another. 
  • What are some of your Valentines Day traditions as a child?  How about some of the things you did in your first marriage?  What about now?  Have you carried over some similar traditions from your past or do you have new ones?  Post these in the Remarried Life Facebook group as we would love to see some of the different things you do.   


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