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The Remarried Life

Feb 9, 2021

Brian Mayer talks about keeping it simple in your remarriage and blended family.  Utilizing 4 Mantras from Buddhist Monk Thich Nhat Hanh can help you be happier in the present moments with those you love the most.    We hope you are inspired by today’s message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at

Today's Goodies

  • Often we like to meet complexity with complexity in our blended family. Often with so many things going on and swirling we often try to hard to do too much. 
  • But what if we think about the issues in a different way and work to meet complexity with simplicity instead. We often don’t think about doing something like this because we are so emotionally and mentally charged that we let our mind and body run together at an extremely fast clip because we feel like we need to keep up. 
  • Thich Nhat Hanh is rather well known Buddhist Monk who was interviewed by Oprah Winfrey a few years back. In the interview he talked about 4 Mantras that when practiced with the ones you love can bring about happiness to us individually and also to us as a couple and to the family unit. 
  • Let’s Talk about his 4 Mantras:
    • Darling, I Am Here For You
    • Darling, I Know That You are There, and That Makes Me So Happy
    • Beloved One, I know you are suffering. That is Why I am Here For You
    • Beloved One, I am Suffering. I Am Trying My Best to Practice.  Please Help Me. 
  • While these are words to be spoken, what is most important through all of these is simply your presence. You are not preoccupied with other things, but are truly and genuinely mentally, emotionally, and physically present with your partner. 
  • All too often we want to solve our partner’s problems. It is much too soon for that.  All our partner usually wants to know is are we there and do we care? 
  • Sometimes we get frustrated at the same complaint over and over again. This takes practice to be what is called long suffering through what you or your partner are going through. 
  • Again simply be there and acknowledge that you see the issue and the pain and hurt that are present.
  • If you do these things, most likely you will see your relationships with your partner and family bloom like a flower in the words of Hanh



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As always remember that marriage is not something you have, it is something you do.  Talk to you next week unless you are binge listening in the future in which case I will talk to you in about a minute!  Take care.