Jul 21, 2021
Brian Mayer is excited to take about 10 episodes of the podcast
to talk about communication. It is probably
the most talked about issue that couples have together that can
sometimes not work well. We will take some time to dive into
this topic to help give you better tools to work on and things to
consider to help communication between you and your spouse be more
effective and more loving. We hope you are inspired by
today’s message. For more information and additional
resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com
- Today we are talking about cultivating a relationship with
Jesus Christ. You might be wondering how this would have anything
to do with how I communicate with my spouse, but as you will see by
the time we end today there is a strong connection.
- I saved this episode for the last in our series because I do
believe that it is the cornerstone for all the rest. You may have
read in the bible that Jesus is considered the
- The definition of a cornerstone is a “stone that forms the base
of a corner of a building, joining two walls.”
- As such Jesus is the cornerstone that brings together the other
9 episodes on communication with this one.
- There may be some of you that listen to this podcast who are
not Christian or that take offense to Christianity. I often think a
lot of this has to do with the human beings that have mistreated
you or maybe twisted things. It could even come from the
belief that Christianity is not inclusive.
- I am not here today to argue any of these points, but rather to
share some helpful scripture that may help in how you communicate
with your spouse.
- As you may or may not know Jesus was known for speaking the
“truth in love.” He had a way of speaking about what was right,
just, and moral, but he did it in a way that was caring and
- I love what 1 Peter 3:15 says about this. It says “… in your
hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer
to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you
have. But do this with gentleness and respect.
- So if we have an issue with someone in our life, we should
bring that issue to them by speaking the truth about whether it is
building up or tearing down. But again we must do it in a way that
- Other than the anger that Jesus showed when people were turning
a place of worship into a place of money exchange where things were
bought and sold, he was always very gentle and kind to those who
were considered “less than” in his society.
- So what some ways to cultivate your relationship with Jesus and
also what are the benefits? Lets discuss that now:
- Quiet Prayer: Getting alone in a room such as
a closet or maybe even going out in nature can help increase
hearing what many call the quiet still voice of the Lord.
Above all in prayer focus on thanking the Lord for all he has done
and to desire simply to increase the relationship. Make it
less about a list of what you “want.”
- Scripture Reading About Communication: There
are many passages about communication that can be very helpful to
meditate on and memorize to recall when you need them. Here
are a few:
- James 1:19 - Everyone should be quick to
listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
- James 3:3-5 - When we put bits into the mouths
of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole
animal. 4 Or take ships as an example.
Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are
steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to
go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small
part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a
great forest is set on fire by a small spark.
- Proverbs 18:13 - Spouting off before listening
to the facts is both shameful and foolish.
- Gathering With Others Who Have Strong Marriages and
uphold Christ at the Center of the Marriage – Learning
from others in this position who have strong relationships but are
willing to also share when they mess up can be so incredibly
powerful, encouraging and helpful.
- Find and Attend a good Bible believing Church.
If you find a church like this you will quite often be exposed to
sermons about healthy ways to communicate with and treat your
spouse. Do this for several years and the good will continue
- Teach others About What Has Worked for You and Your
Spouse. There is nothing like cementing what you have
learned about good communication from your prayer time, reading the
Bible, attending church, and learning from others that will help
when you share with others. This will often come back to
strengthen your relationship and communication.
- We really hope you have enjoyed this entire series on
communication. Please go back through episodes 182 through
this one which is 191 and you will get all sorts of great
information and perspectives on how to make your communication with
your spouse and your family even healthier.
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