Jan 22, 2019
Brian Mayer talks about how the very common issue of how alcohol
use can affect one or both partners or and can have a detrimental
impact on the relationship. Often we as human beings will
minimize our usage and the types of trouble it causes. Today
we will take an in depth look at this issue. We hope you are
inspired by today’s message. For more information and
additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com
- Alcohol is a very common issue as we know. It affects
lots of people, lots of families, and lots of relationships.
Today we are going to talk more about this topic and how it affects
- Did you know that according to a 2015 National Survey on Drug
Use and Health, that around 86% percent of adults 18 and over
report drinking alcohol, 70% or so report drinking in the last
year, and 56% in the past month.
- So what this says it that most of us drink at some
points. But is drinking in and of itself a bad thing.
There is certainly a debate on light alcohol usage being a problem
as you may have heard studies that talk about the benefits of
consuming small amounts of red wine on occasion.
- Physically speaking light alcohol consumption can cause some
issues but that are more easily reversible. There have been
studies that show that in 90% of people that consume more than a
half an ounce of alcohol per day that fat increases in the
liver. Again though with reduction this will often
- Even spiritually speaking, the Bible seems to suggest again
that light alcohol consumption is acceptable. For example, in
Ecclesiastes 9:7, it says “Go, eat your food with gladness, and
drink you wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved
what you do.” However, it does talk about getting drunk on
wine as being unacceptable.
- Relationally speaking you might recall times where you went out
with your partner or others, enjoyed an alcoholic drink and have a
- However, alcohol issues are well documented in the issues they
cause. Let’s first talk about the different stages of alcohol
use. This according to an article called Stages of Alcoholism
(link provided in resource section).
- Occasional Abuse and Binge Drinking
- 5 or more alcoholic drinks within 2 hours for men and 4 or more
in that same time period for women
- Increased Drinking (drinking occurring for these reasons)
- Excuse to get together with friends
- Alleviate stress (relax)
- Reduce sadness or loneliness (self-medicate)
- Problem Drinking (results that may occur):
- Change in Friends
- Relationship issues
- Decreased social activity
- Difficulty having conversations with friends
- Alcohol Dependence (not yet addicted)
- Nausea unrelated to hangover
- Severe irritability
- Racing heart
- Trouble sleeping
- No longer drinking for pleasure, but drinking for a
physiological or physical need
- Other compulsive behaviors are present
- Physical issues can include damage to liver, heart disease,
brain damage, malnutrition, and mental health disorders
- After going through this do you think alcohol might be an issue
for you or your partner. Alcohol use is probably more
prevalent in remarriage because of the difficult nature of divorce
and all the issues that go on with the complications we
- Part of the issue with alcohol use is that none of us think we
have a problem with but this is certainly far from the
- Along with that issues of not thinking we have a problem, means
that we may think we don’t need to seek help or in fact may
completely refuse any kind of help because the issue has so gripped
- Best ways to get help for alcohol issues in your family
- Call SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services
Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). It is free and they
will refer you to a state funded treatment program or a program
that charges on a sliding scale. Go to their website for more
information including lots of free useful pamphlets that you can
see immediately. The link for that is also below in the show
- Alcohol Rehabilitation in your area can be a helpful
resource. These facilities generally offer in patient meaning
extended stays and outpatient services.
- Alcoholics Anonymous is a group resource where you can talk to
others who also struggle and gain support and encourage and
- Al-Anon is for those of you that are worried about a loved one
with a drinking problem. You can get support and meet with
others who also have loved ones with issues.
- Individual One on One Counseling with a certified substance
abuse counselor can also help for more less intense alcohol issues
that don’t require in patient type hospitalization
- Please take alcohol consumption seriously and think about the
warning signs and issues and get help if you need it. There
are lots of caring people out the ready to help and if you don’t
find someone who cares, then hang up and try someone
- Disclaimer: The information provided on this site does
not constitute legal, accounting, or mental health advice, and
there has been no professional-client relationship formed in the
use of this website.
Stages of Alcoholism Article
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