May 28, 2019
Brian Mayer takes a look back at parenting. The show has
done many episodes on parenting and by far issues and questions
about parenting in a blended family are the most often confusing
and perplexing issues. We will talk about my favorite 10
episodes that we explored parenting. If you have not listened
to these, I would encourage you to do that and if you already have
listened, then listen again to those that you might still be
struggling with. We hope you enjoy today’s
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- In the The Remarried
Life Facebook Group, I recently asked the question, “What do
you struggle with the most in your blended family journey.
And almost 100% of the answers centered around parenting.
Whether it be different styles, difficulty in uniting with
your partner, or different expectations, it is a topic that
continues to baffle many people including me at times.
- Over the life of this podcast, parenting is something we have
taken a look at on many occasions and today I wanted to highlight
those episodes that I think could be very helpful with whatever
issue you might be dealing with when it comes to this exasperating
- Session 12: Four
Parenting Styles – Which One Are You? - In this episode
we talk about the Authoritative, Authoritarian, Neglectful, and
Permissive parenting styles. They all revolve around answers
to questions centered around closeness and rules. The best
place to be is to say Yes to both closeness and rules or to
- Session 17:
Contracts to Motivate Stepchild Behavior - Sometimes motivation
can come in the form of a written document in which parents and
teens can both feel empowered to change what is going
- Session 38:
Parenting Through the Guilt of Divorce? - This is a very
common issue in which many parents feel that they have already put
their children through enough and so they will often take their
foot off the gas when it comes to boundaries and
- Session 52: New
Stepdad Tips - Becoming a new stepdad is hard. It
is hard to know how to step in discipline and to manage impatience
and anger through the process.
- Session 66: New
Traditions for Kids in a Blended Family – We often think about
traditions in nuclear biological families and that maybe in
stepfamilies that we are somehow not allow to develop traditions of
our own to give the family something they can be proud of when
thinking about this new family. Listen to the out of the box ideas
in this podcast episode.
- Session 69: Anger
and Making Decisions About the Kids – This emotion is a lot
like the guilt we talked about in episode 38. Making
decisions when you are angry rarely ever goes well. We talk
about how this anger affects children and how to deal with your own
anger in a productive and constructive manner by remaining calm,
getting support and thinking about what would your kids says when
they are adults.
- Session 71:
Purposeful Relationships with the Whole Family – This is
another sort of outside the box episode where we talk creatively
about how to engage the different personalities in the
family. For example, starting a game night but rotating who
leads. We talked about the appreciation wave at the dinner
table, where each person stands and says something they appreciate
about the person to their right.
- Session 80: New
Stepmom Tips – Being a stepmom is so tough. Juggling all
the responsibilities can sometimes be too much. We will talk
about practical ways to lighten the mental and emotional
- Session 89: Who
Comes First Your Spouse or Your Kids? – This is a tough subject
because I will get lots of disagreements on this one, because often
people will say that the kids are most important because they are
mine biologically, or look at all they have been through, or you
can fend for yourself because you are an adult. So not the right
approach and we will talk about that on this episode.
- Session 90: Signs
Your Are an Insecure Parent – This is something lots of
struggle with and sometimes it has to do with our past. Often
if there was a perfectionist mentality for your growing up, then if
things aren’t perfect you will look at them as failures. This
can cause a great deal of anxiety so we will look at ways to cope
better and make changes.
- Hope you enjoyed this look back at all of the great information
being a better stepparent.
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